Q. Someone suggested that using the pronouns "you" and "your" is more helpful than using "I"—how does that help my brain or my behaviors?
A. You can use the word "I". In that case you would need to say, "I, __________," to make sure your brain knows about whom you are talking. Studies suggest it is likely more effective in programming your brain to speak about yourself in the present tense using the words you and your. The word you depersonalizes things slightly and emphasizes that you are collaborating with your brain and giving it directions.