©Arlene R. Taylor PhD

altAt some time in their lifetime, most people date and if they are living authentically and have a large enough pool of individuals from which to select, their dating patterns may reflect innate brain function.

The more similar two people are in terms of brain function the greater the likelihood that both the verbal and nonverbal communication patterns will be understood. Often the people who become “best friends” are individuals who have similiar brain function.

Following are examples of dating patterns that myself and others have observed.

altPrioritizing Division

altEnvisioning Division


Individuals with aan energey advantage in this division may:

  • Lean toward systematic dating
  • Be careful and goal-oriented spenders (e.g., want a return on their investment)
  • Make goal-driven, objective, somewhat unemotional decisions about dating
  • Avoid potlucks and social events (unless they can achieve a goal by attending or at least “kill two birds with one stone”)
  • Create a list of preferred characteristics and single-mindedly seek for a match
  • Date to find a mate so they can get back to the business of work and living


Individuals with an energy advantage in this division may:

  • Lean toward simultaneous dating, often of individuals who are unusual or exotic or who differ from the “norm”
  • Take up with and "underdog" in an attempt to help the individual
  • Be impulsive spenders
  • Make spontaneous (even unusual) choices about dating
  • Hang out with people they like, singly or in a group, but may not think of this as a “dating” per se
  • Date several individuals for different reasons depending on the specific type of activity involved with each
  • Resist commitment from fear of possible boredom and/or lack of variety

altMaintaining Division

altHarmonizing Division


Individuals with an energy advantage in this division may:

  • Lean toward prolonged dating
  • Be conservative spenders
  • Plan ahead, be on time, and expect his/her date to be on time
  • Generally like group activities and may enjoy team situations
  • Dislike surprises
  • Resist commitment from fear of change and may get in the habit of dating a person for years


Individuals with an energy advantage in this division may:

  • Lean toward emotional dating
  • Date someone for whom they "feel sorry" and try to help them
  • Date in the company of a group of friends, at least initially
  • Be extravagant spenders
  • Enjoy celebrating anything and everything (e.g., anniversaries, birthdays, holidays)
  • Have favorite activities, foods, music, locations
  • Generally enjoy potlucks and social events
  • Be quite accommodating in dating situations in an endeavor to achieve harmony, which can give the other person a misleading sense of reality