Realizations Inc

Q. I’ve heard it said that words aren’t as important as actions. What does that mean?

Q. Teachers have complained that my two children are argumentative and sometimes even disrespectful. When I ask the kids why they argued or were disrespectful, their response is that they didn't like the way the teacher talked to them, so that the reason they argue and their comments are being interpreted as disrespectful. How do I handle the teachers?

Q. Do you have any words of wisdom about relationships?

Q. I just turned 19 and don’t have a very good handle on choosing relationships, and on prioritizing their position in my life. Any ideas?

Q. As a parent I have a duty to make my child subscribe to family values, beliefs, and behaviors. My son has a different opinion, especially related to church attendance. How do I make him conform?

Q. I grew up in a family that used the terms emotions and feelings interchangeably and that let them all hang out. My partner says I can control my behaviors regardless of what I feel like. Is that right?

Q. I’m often tired after spending time with a specific individual. Is it possible for this person to impact my energy levels?

Q. How can family-of-origin work help me and my relationships?

Q. I heard you give a brain definition of generation gap some time ago that made a lot of sense. Please repeat it.

Q. I tested as having a fairly high IQ but routinely having difficulty communicating with most people. Do you have any suggestions?”

Q. My partner and I recently attended The Brain Program. What we learned has improved our relationship immensely and we now have a more neutral language with which to discuss differences. We’re considering consolidating our living arrangements. One behavior pattern concerns me, however. My partner has a tendency not to follow through on promises and commitments. But I love this person! What should I do?

Q. Three years ago my partner and I fell in love. Lately I don’t get that "kick in the stomach" when we kiss and that puzzles me. Where did it go?

Q. My boss tends to say "no" to most suggestions or requests I make. I've never thought of her as particularly negative or vindictive but this is getting ridiculous. I'm curious to know if you think this is a "brain thing."

Q. There has been a clergyman in each of the last five generations of our family and it is important to continue that tradition. The only male out of 12 children in the upcoming generation (my son) does not want to into my profession. His desires run counter to my own ethics about mission, parental wisdom, and service. Recently, this lad of 23 (who I know is not yet mature) attended one of your seminars and returned reinforced in his desire to be a pilot. You have no business saying anything that could interfere with my will as patriarch of the family!

Q. I seem to have difficulty relating successfully with other people. Someone suggested I read Dale Carnegie's book, How to Win Friends and Influence People. I did but it seems a bit dated. Do you have anything more current to suggest?

Q. After spending a couple of decades taking care of my husband and four children, I finally obtained my GED and recently enrolled in Junior College. When I leave/return from class, however, my husband often makes derogatory remarks (e.g., don’t bring any of "those lesbian classmates" home). I don’t understand what’s going on and this doesn’t seem fair.

Q. I recently remarried after being single for nearly 20 years. The man I married is warm and caring, and tells me every day how much he loves me. But I don't believe it because he calls or texts his 97-year-old mother every day. That makes me feel like I'm not the most important woman in his life.

Q. I have a friend who pretty much talks nonstop. It’s hard for me to get a word in edgewise. Sometimes after spending two hours together I’ve actually said two words: “Hi,” and “Bye.” What is it with that type of brain?

Q. What type of brain engages in terrorist activities? I’m scared since 9/11!

Q. I disagree with your statement that “living together is not a trial marriage.” What is your reason for saying this?

Q. A friend of mine attended The Brain Program and later quoted you as saying, "Living together is never a trial marriage." What do you mean?