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©Arlene Taylor, PhD Realizations Inc
Learning to develop, implement consistently, and live within appropriate personal limits is a lifelong process. This process can differ based on the person’s own preferences.
Left Frontal Lobe
Individuals with an energy advantage in this cerebral division:
• Tend to use boundaries as tools to help them achieve their goals
• Tend to act as if their boundaries are the gold standard, and expect others to conform (abuser stance)
• May implement boundaries objectively, decisively, and authoritatively
• May be able to “just say no” |
Right Frontal Lobe
Individuals with an energy advantage in this cerebral division:
• Tend to use boundaries to protect the self or avoid conflict
• Are usually somewhat unstructured about their boundaries and may adjust them based on situational context
• Dislike boundaries that are perceived to be excessively rigid or even unnecessary
• Prefer to say “let’s take the risk” (although can be very definite about not wanting to take the risk) |
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Left Posterior Lobes
Individuals with an energy advantage in this cerebral division:
• Tend to use boundaries to maintain the status quo and to help them feel safe
• Tend to perpetuate and honor established boundaries, and expect others to do the same
• Tend to adjust their boundaries to fit into the established environment
• May be rigid and stubborn in implementation of selected boundaries |
Right Posterior Lobes
Individuals with an energy advantage in this cerebral division:
• Tend to use boundaries to conform to expectations
• May violate boundaries in order to avoid disharmony or increase connectedness (victim stance), and can find it difficult to “just say no”
• May underestimate the value of boundaries, and may struggle to develop appropriate boundaries (over a lifetime)
• May be affronted when others implement their own personal boundaries |
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